March 4, 2020
– JUSTINE JENKINS
“Loving your authentic self isn’t about taking the bits of you that you like most and sharing it with the world. It’s about looking in the mirror, observing the parts you don’t like and turning those parts into a piece of art.”
- DAILY POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS (aka love notes)
Try not to start your affirmations with “I want” or “I need”. Daily affirmations are about celebrating what you DO have and finding gratitude in it. Combat negative feelings and replace them with positive ones. For example, if you are feeling inadequate, then you replace that feeling with words such as “I am enough” because as cheesy as it sounds, you are. You’re the only one who needs to realize that. Once you realize it and believe it, every one around you will too.
In order to turn this into your daily ritual do things like writing the positive affirmations on paper or in your journal. Leave these little love notes for yourself on your mirror, computer, or on your book marker. Get into the routine of speaking highly of yourself and your life, every damn day. Loving your authentic self isn’t about taking the bits of you that you like most and sharing it with the world. It’s about looking in the mirror, observing the parts you don’t like and turning those parts into a piece of art. The world will view you as artful as you view yourself!
2. SPREAD THE LOVE
In the same way you must complete the daily affirmations for yourself, you must also do for others.
I live by this little rule and it’s that anytime I think something nice about somebody, I tell them. I’d say things to strangers like “I really dig your style”, “I love your hair”, or “You have the best legs!”…. it turns their entire day around.
But I urge you to think outside the box of complimenting the obvious. Discover beauty where beauty isn’t always seen.
For the most part, it’s pretty easy to recognize when someone lacks self confidence or self worth, and it’s those people I feel even more compelled to bring joy to. When you come across someone like this, take the time to observe them… find something you really like about them and tell them about it. Practicing something like this is truly the most rewarding thing you could do. It’s also extremely healing for both parties.
“If you allow toxicity to make a home in your life then you are committing an act of self-betrayal.”
3. SELF CARE = SELF LOVE
Yes this means more nights in and less nights out. Trading a bottle of booze for face masks and herbal tea. Trading T.V. time for reading books or journaling. Mastering self control when it comes to your habits; kicking Mc Donald’s to the curb and opting for whole foods, saving your bank account and lungs by saying no to cigarettes.
But self care isn’t just about prioritizing how the day unfolds and what you put your money and time into… it’s also about who you prioritize and who you put your time and energy into.
While we are working to achieve the best versions of ourselves you should know that this new improved you will also attract toxic people; like bugs attracted to light.
It’s important that you protect your space. Your space should be a safe place to hold your truth and share your truth… anyone who challenges that or tries to muddy your space with their dirty shoes… you need to unapologetically step away. Let go of what and who no longer serves you and dearly hold onto what and who does. If you allow toxicity to make a home in your life then you are committing an act of self-betrayal.
4. CELEBRATE YOU
Body positivity is on the rise. Without judgement or fear of judgement please celebrate in whichever way is most comfortable to you (aka clothing optional) And by celebrate, I mean document it, capture it, photograph it.
Someone once told me the story of a Greek God who was cast away as a baby, by his parents, because he was so ugly. He was taken in by his new parents who found him to be the most beautiful. He then spent the rest of his life going around and healing others by showing them how beautiful they were.
I recognize that this is the essence of being a portrait photographer… and it’s not just my job, it’s my mission. It’s my mission to show others how beautiful they are from the outside looking in.
It’s a humbling reminder that when I serve others in this way.. I’m simultaneously serving myself. And this is what I like to call a journey of healing. This healing process leads you to a moment, whether it’s short-lived or not, where you can finally look in the mirror and truly love what you see and in this moment of self-love discovery, you experience an authentic awakening. Hold onto this moment for as long as you can. Make it last. And then, share this moment with others. That is the goal.
I’d like to celebrate these moments by running a special: A series of women embracing every bit of their body; the art of self love.
These sessions will target women who want to learn to love what they see in the mirror and/or for the women who practice self love daily and would like to encourage other women to do the same.
If you would like a session with me to celebrate YOU, or if you know of somebody who needs a healing session like this, then please click the link below to contact me for more details.